"Powerful, curious, and deeply human, this book captures the weird, liminal phase of pregnancy and postpartum so well it should be required reading for all fathers."
--Liz Swenson (@LizSwensonBFF), author and illustrator of You Got This, Mama!, Raising Tiny Humans, and Trying

"Shawna Lander offers a candid and deeply personal account of how motherhood reshapes a woman's inner world, drawing us into the intimate and often unspoken experience. Her writing reads with the ease of a conversation and the craft of a seasoned storyteller, inviting readers into her thoughts, grounding and reassuring them along the way. With an honesty that feels both intimate and universally recognizable, she gives language to the emotional shifts of early motherhood, allowing readers to feel seen and less alone. What a comfort this will be to new mothers."
--Karen Kleiman, founder of The Postpartum Stress Center and author of Good Moms Have Scary Thoughts

"The Role of Mom Will Be Played By is as unflinchingly introspective as it is raw, funny, and hopeful. With her gift for human insight, Shawna Lander tells a story so personal it becomes universal, reminding us all that we are so much more than the roles we play."
--Amber Estenson (@ThatMidwesternMom), actress, opera singer, and content creator

"Shawna Lander does something rare: she tells the truth about motherhood without making it a cautionary tale or a love letter. It's both, and everything in between . . . Every mother who has ever felt behind, alone, or quietly certain she's the only one getting it wrong will feel seen by this book. And every woman who's wondered if motherhood is for her will find, somewhere in these pages, the most honest answer she's ever been given."
--Sidra Wali (@SidandListen), influencer

"This is not simply a story about being a mother; it is the voice of a woman sharing her lived experience with others who, regardless of if they have children, will recognize themselves in the layered, deeply personal, and yet totally universal reality of womanhood. It offers validation, reassurance, and a much-needed breath of relief for women at every stage of life. I can't explain to you how much this book meant to me as a woman who is unsure if she wants children, and I know reading this will be such a defining moment for so many."
--Sydney Jo (@ThatGirlSydJo), creator of viral web series The Group Chat

"The Role of Mom Will Be Played By is honestly so great. Sometimes changing your mind requires you to create a version of yourself that didn't exist before. Shawna and this book are glowing examples of that transformation."
--Soogia (@Soogia1), influencer

"A raw, honest, and vulnerable account of the journey to motherhood. Sensitively told by Shawna, it's a book you will want to share not only with expectant mothers, but the tribe who surrounds her."
--Dr. Maryhan, psychologist and host of the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids podcast

"Shawna Lander has given mothers both a mirror and a permission slip to be fully human. In taking us into her entry to motherhood, Shawna shows us that we are not alone, that we matter and that by choosing to be the main character in our own lives, we can better play the most sacred role of mom in our children's lives. This is a book for the mom who feels like she disappeared the moment the baby came along and for anyone who ever side-eyed another mom just doing the best she can with what she knows. Lander's story reminds us that, after all, moms are people, too."
--Libby Ward (@LibbyWard), author of Honest Motherhood